Making Time for Each Other

I was very apprehensive for the birth of my second daughter, Haven. I wasn’t apprehensive about labor or birth, or even about meeting her. I was apprehensive because I didn’t know how the new addition to my family would affect all of us. Now, don’t get me wrong, she was a planned child. We loved her before she even was a “her.” I was just scared of how to handle two children, and how it would affect my relationship with my husband. I know, I know. We already had one child, how much more could another affect our relationship? Well, more than you would imagine.

It’s not the girls that are affecting our relationship. I never want to blame them for something like that, because they are innocent babies who I wouldn’t give up for the world. Life is affecting us. The other night I was sitting here and it hit me: I miss him. And the crazy thing about that? He was sitting right beside me! He was on his smart phone(the devil made those) and I was reading a book, and we were totally ignoring each other. We don’t have a lot of time together as it is. He works two jobs and I couldn’t be any more proud of him for supporting and loving us. I don’t want you to think I’m ungrateful because I don’t mean to come off that way. The thing is though, he has two jobs, I take care of two kids, and we don’t have time for each other. I thought our relationship was good, was strong, until that night. Now, I realize that although we aren’t having any problems, we have to keep an open line of communication to insure that none pop up.

We need to take time out of our days to just ask “How are you?” Whether we get 5 minutes or 50 minutes, as long as it is quality time spent together talking about us and our lives, it’s what we need. And when I say talking about our lives, I don’t mean talking about the kids, or work, or bills, or errands we need to do. I mean we need to talk about us, about why we love each other and what we love about each other. We need to laugh together. We need to share all of our feelings. Our spouses are our best friends, and don’t you tell your best friend everything?

I couldn't live without my husband, so I need to try harder and make sure I never have to. He is the man of my dreams and I am lucky to be living this life with him. So, to end this I will say that I’m going to work on us. I’m going to work to keep the line of communication open. Maybe if I do this I won’t miss the man I married, because he’ll be sitting right beside me.